Monday, May 12, 2008

Please do me a favor....

Hi Friends!

How have you been? Things have been really busy around here...our new home was completely unlandscaped in the back and we tackled it weekend before last and did everything from fill dirt to all the final touches (except a few flowers that I'm still too scared to plant as it still gets down below freezing here at night) in one weekend. We were exhausted, but it looks so nice and it's nice to have that not hanging over our heads anymore!

On to the project everyone knows, both my MIL and my FIL have cancer. My MIL finished chemo at the end of January and my FIL just started chemo a month ago. He came over last week and asked me to shave his head for him as his hair was coming out in big patches. So when we were finished, I had them pose together for this picture. It is so surreal that they would be going through this together, and I thought that a picture chronicling this stage in their life would be something that they would treasure when this is all over and they have their health back.

I put alot of thought and energy into the whole idea and exactly what I wanted it to look like. I wanted it to have words, but words that were meaningful and not "morbid." I picked the stamp from Lizzie Anne Design's set Say It In Script. It says, "Cherish Yesterday, Dream of Tomorrow & Live for Today." It is one stamp, but I colored each little saying seperately and cut it out so that I could mount one of each of the little sayings in each corner. The other corner has the little bridal flowers from Michael's (colored) and a little pearl added to the middle. I then used red line tape to put the ribbon around the edges and a little pearl in each corner. All of the elements were thought out so that they would be understated but meaningful...the photo was what I wanted to be the focal piece. I was so happy with the way it turned out and my husband was, too. He was so appreciative of my effort and was excited to give it to his mom for Mother's Day.

We had both of our families over for dinner...I prepared a big meal and made sure it would be a nice evening for everyone. After dinner my husband went and got the gift. His mother opened it and very quickly and loudly SHRIEKED, "DARCE....THIS IS HORRID!!" And it didn't stop there...she continued to say it several more times. My heart sunk...I wanted to cry. I felt like a little kid who had created a clay handprint and was told it was awful. I didn't know what to do. No one was saying anything, except for her. I finally just said, "Wow...after all of my hard work." I really regret that statement...really regret it. I should have just walked away and composed myself. But I just felt like such an idiot. I guess she realized that perhaps it was a little harsh so she quickly said, "I mean my picture." I didn't say anything else. I began serving dessert and fought back tears the rest of the night. She tried a couple of times after that to convince me how much she liked it.....ummmm, yeah. I could tell.

I know that not everyone appreciates our love of crafting the way we crafters do. I get that. I know that I don't create the masterpieces of so many others in this crafting world. I get that. But to scream over and over about how "horrid" something is when you can tell that someone made it, regardless if you know how much time or effort went into it...I don't get that.

My night was completely ruined...and most of my Mother's Day. I cry just thinking about it.

So to everyone that is ever given a handmade creation by someone else....whether it be a child's drawing, a true work of art, or just something made from the heart, I beg you to SHRIEK, "OH MY GOD! I LOVE IT!" Even if you don't.

Stamps: Say It In Script (LAD)
Paper: Whisper White, Basic Black
Ink: So Saffron, Really Rust, Bravo Burgundy
Other Goodies: Adhesive Pearls (Hero Arts), Bridal Flowers (Michael's), Ribbon, Frame


Kelly Schelske said...

Oh my Darce, I think it's wonderful. The picture is great, I think it's a nice picture of them together. I'm so sorry that your MIL had to have that kind of reaction, it takes so much time, effort and love when you made wonderful gifts like this and I can only imagine how it made you feel. I don't really know anything to say to make you feel better, but I think it's an absolutely wonderful gift that should be cherised and you should be proud of the heart you put into creating a specail gift llike this!! I hope you have a much day today:-) Kelly

Amy said...

I think it's a very sweet and thoughtful gift... I really feel for you though as I know you put a lot of love and energy into such a sweet and kind sentiment. She must just be going through a lot right now and was not at all thinking about your feelings. Not very generous on her part. So many people would have LOVED to get that gift. Myself included.

Denise Bryant (imchatty) said...

Darce, I love the picture and the gift you made. I am sorry it didn't get the reaction you hoped to receive because it was a gift form the heart and made with loving intentions.

My only other thought is that maybe your MIL isn't far enough out of chemo to be viewing the whole situation as you do....a survivor story. I am sure the stress of your FIL now entering chemo just added to her reaction.

{{Hugs}} to you and I hope that one day your MIL will be able to look at her picture and feel blessed rather than looking "horrid".